Dear Abby: I am 56 years old and I had an affair with a woman 17 years ago.
We came close and after five years we started living together. We parted ways after five years of that, but remained friends. At that point, her daughter “Chloe” and I developed feelings for each other.
Chloe’s mother fell ill two years ago and has now passed away.
I love Chloe, but she doesn’t want anyone to know about our affair. I don’t see how we can hide it any more. Do you think this relationship will last?
ideas in california
Dear Thoughts: You’re asking the wrong woman. Now is the time to have a serious talk with Chloe and ask why she doesn’t want anyone to know about the affair.
His answer will tell you everything you need to know where your future — or not — headline lies.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have been together for eight years, two have been married. We recently started discussing having a family.
I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), and it can be difficult for me to get pregnant. I had a miscarriage earlier this year. Until that happened, I didn’t know how badly I wanted a baby.
We both think we are ready to be parents. However, I am afraid that I will not be able to conceive or I will lose the baby again.
My husband is very optimistic. He thinks that everything will be alright and it will happen as soon as we decide to get pregnant. I have tried to explain PCOS to her, but she is oblivious to what our reality could be.
I don’t know how to approach him, so he won’t be seriously disappointed if biological kids aren’t in the cards for us. Do you have any suggestion?
Troubled in Tennessee
Dear Troubled: Please accept my sympathy for your miscarriage. Since you haven’t been able to tell your husband that the road to parenthood can be a bumpy one, take the help of your OB/GYN or your fertility specialist to explain it to him. That way, if what you fear is true, you can better support each other.
I wish you both the best for this journey.
Dear Abby: My father has hearing problem. Every night he nods in his recliner. When it’s time for me to go to bed and I turn off the TV, he turns it back on instead of sleeping exactly like he should.
I am one of those people who needs to be quiet to sleep. Abby, this has been going on since I moved here with my parents. I’ve done everything I can think of, but he just keeps doing it and I’m ready to explode.
Dear Daughter: Have you tried to enlist your mother’s help in reaching your father? Have you tried earphones for him and earplugs for you? If the answer to these questions is yes, then you will either have to make adjustments or, for the sake of your health and sanity, look for another place to live.
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