Dear Abby: My husband and I are newly married and share an apartment with another couple because we ran into financial difficulties and this was our only option. The problem is that the other couple has two dogs, they expect us to take care of them while they are at work.
My husband and I arrive home two hours early in the evening, and he has become accustomed to our generosity in taking the dogs out and walking them sometimes.
They now expect us to do this every day, and if we don’t do it they get angry and bad. Please help.
At the Doghouse in Georgia
Dear in the Doghouse: It sounds like you and your roommates are having communication problems. Say. Tell them that you don’t like taking away the responsibility of walking their animals and that you will no longer do so. Then remind them that while you were willing to do the occasional favor, you don’t appreciate their entitlement attitude.
You are not their built-in dog walker. You only have to capture a “doghouse” if you allow yourself to be in one.
Dear Abby: I never told anyone about this. My pastor molested me when I was 8, and then when I was 14.
I see the doctor because of depression and PTSD. My doctor doesn’t know, and I don’t want my family to know.
I don’t even know if the pastor is still alive. Should I tell my doctor or let it go? I’ve heard of priests doing this, but I was going to a Pentecostal church.
male readers in Kentucky
Dear male reader: It is very important for your mental health that you tell your doctor everything you have told me, because what happened to you may be the cause of your depression and PTSD. Do this not only for yourself, but also because it may help other young people who belong to that church and who may have been molested by the stalker.
Dear Abby: Is it appropriate to use dental floss in public? When my mom eats out, she uses dental floss at the table or when leaving the restaurant. She thinks she’s smart, but what she’s doing is obvious.
When I ask her to stop, she says she can’t eat food with her teeth. I tell her to go in or out of the toilet, but she doesn’t or keeps on flossing. I hope she listens to you and you support me.
Ellen in the United States
Dear Ellen: I agree that flossing your teeth in public is unsightly and something that should be done in private. If necessary, this should be done in the toilet.
(Do I need to add that if using a mouth rinse, the sink should be cleaned afterwards and any residue stuck to the mirror removed?)
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