Hiring private detectives to see if your partner is cheating is more common than it seems

The sad story of DJ Valentina Trespalacios has raised the question, how safe is it to have a relationship with a foreigner, known through an internet application? Studies conducted by digital media analysts indicate that with the COVID-19 pandemic, people have understood that love can be shared regardless of distance. An estimated 270 million people worldwide used dating apps in 2020, almost double the number from five years ago.

Truth is this Love dating sites or social networks that facilitate these attitudes cannot be performed. Sexologist Flavia dos Santos assures that the risk in unsuccessful love stories or in which triumph ends can be in the person, “How many people who have been married for many years wake up and realize that they are Were? Enemies? People with personality disorders and criminal minds are going to look for ways to find their victims,” ​​he says.

That is why they ask to follow some advice like trying to know the family environment, traveling from time to time, so that the relationship does not become just a financial transaction.

Marketing agency MIB Marketing & Business told Semana that the four dating portals most visited by Colombians is Latin American Cupid, with 14.83 percent of the visits it receives from “singles” looking for serious relationships and they live in Colombia. live in and 25.57 percent are from the United States. states. Mejor Amor is the second most popular application, Colombian Cupid is third and Badoo is fourth.

For sexologist Flavia dos Santos, “foreigners are ‘in love’ with Latinas because the conversation and the foreigner are interesting.” He explains that humans love what is different, which is why the exploration of cultures is stimulating for many and the reason curiosity fuels long-distance relationships. He assures that you can have a relationship without seeing each other every month. The digital part has opened up the possibility of establishing connections of genuine interest that require creativity and sensitivity to succeed. Technical analysts say that a long distance couple sends an average of 400 text messages a week.

Jason Villamil, national operations coordinator for Ecessor-IP, a private investigative agency based in Colombia, assures that per month he attends to an average of 15 cases of foreigners who want to know whether their partners have been unfaithful in Colombia. Most men usually contract these services between the ages of 50 and 80, of nationalities such as the United States of America, Spain, Italy, Mexico and Chile. Their partners are usually between the ages of 20 and 30.

These private investigators, in the style of the best paparazzi, prepare their cameras and begin recording every movement of the “target” in public places, as they call the person they are following. Sometimes the mystery is solved quickly because most want to confirm their suspicions when they contract for a service. Working nine hours each day of research represents an investment of approximately 400,000 pesos.

The price is high, but keep in mind that the investigator must do everything that the “target” does. If you go out to dance, eat or watch a movie, you have to go to those places. What considers those expenses to be a charge.

They assure that private investigator companies that are serious usually have a team of psychologists with tests to avoid tragedies and reports of infidelity with a professional accompaniment. Even before signing a contract, they verify that the client does not have any type of weapon in the home and assess the emotional profile. The information obtained in these follow-ups is so sensitive that they need to know who they trust to prevent a question from turning into a nightmare of extortion and threats. This often happens when those offering to hunt down fraudsters are not actually investigators.

When consulting with Asesoras IP and CIIP detective offices, the two most requested in Bogotá to provide these services, both agree that before the pandemic there were women who were suspicious of their husbands. But the situation was reversed during the peak of the virus, as it was women who aroused the most suspicion in their partners.

According to agency statistics, proven infidelity occurs in nine out of ten cases. Love in couples is based on an act of trust, says sexologist Fernando Rosero, who assures that infidelity cannot be perceived as perversion. He believes that men and women are equally unfaithful, with the difference being that women keep them quiet for fear of social condemnation, something that does not happen to men, who use their power to deflate the masculine ego. Leave loose ends at will. It is clear that the hours in which more meetings are recorded between lovers are neither on weekends nor at night.

On the contrary, since working hours are used. Monday and Wednesday are ideal days to go astray. Those who undertake this work assure that, although they feel the satisfaction of having removed the blindfold and the truth has come outIt is still painful to see the despair that a person experiences when he finds out about betrayal.