Why are we going on a trip? No one knows what may happen tomorrow. Why am I going to accept this job opportunity? Life is full of surprises, you don’t already have them. There are optimists and pessimists in any group of friends. The RAE defines a pessimist as one who has a tendency to see and judge things in their most unfavorable aspect, while an optimist would be one who sees and judges things in their most favorable aspect. Extreme pessimists are labeled doom, while radical optimists are labeled as subliminal. Leoncio the Lion and the Adventures of Tristan, They differ in their way of talking about the future, past and present; and by the prevalent content of his thoughts. Research indicates that about a third of attitudes toward life, related to being optimistic or pessimistic, are explained by genetic inheritance. The personality style is also influenced by the conformance of childhood experiences and learning models.
An era of dissonance and polarization seemed to confront optimists and pessimists as well. Social networks are full of controversy in this regard, however, delving into it, it turns out that it is actually more interesting to look at the useful contributions of both points of view. Much of the current controversy is because they are poorly explained.
Moderate pessimism has its fair share. Sometimes negative expectations set you up to deal with problems. Wishing for many things can be associated with unhappiness. Being honest about your lack of control in the face of life’s ups and downs can help you cope with grief. This moderate pessimism highlights the pernicious effect of some self-help books that exaggerate the need to experience only positive emotions and sidestep everything related to pain.
Extreme pessimism carries the same risks as radical optimism. Cognitive biases can be identified in many of the automatic negative thoughts that make one feel pessimistic. Losing constant hope can be a risk factor for developing, for example, a depressive disorder. Fatalism induces the appearance of learned helplessness, a term developed by American psychologist Martin Seligman, which defines the moment in which one does as little as possible because one is inevitably doomed to failure.
On the other hand, intelligent optimism has benefits. “Anything, anyone can affect our lives and at any age,” says Carmelo Vazquez, professor of psychology at Complutense University. These theories speak to the fact that humans are capable of resistance, of adapting to the environment and of changing it. Optimistic people can associate positive and negative feelings in painful situations. There are experiences such as those of survivors of extreme situations (such as concentration camps) that demonstrate this. Also, optimistic people are better able to enjoy the present moment. They think that evil is not going to last forever and that only they are not responsible for it.
However, wishful optimism can be just as harmful as excessive pessimism. This is found in the use of phrases such as: “You think well and it will work out for you”, “If you want, you can”. This infantilism underestimates the dangers and encourages risk-taking that can be harmful. These theories have gone so far as to say that the treatment of serious diseases depends on the state of mind, whereas it must be said that, if one is more optimistic, one follows medical advice better, as psychiatrist Luis Rojas states. Marcos explains. Well.
Extremes of optimism and pessimism lead to behaving passively and not taking partial responsibility for actions or decisions made. The important thing would be to learn how to channel both tendencies and find healthy coping strategies to strike a balance. One trick for pessimists might be to promote the optimistic thoughts they trust instead of letting pessimists down. This is achieved by enhancing the moments, situations, and behaviors that make you feel good and talk about what you love. Or choose artistic or sensory activities in which to sublimate that existential sensibility. And use humor without reaching sarcasm. For those who tend toward excessive optimism, one solution would be to think about the consequences of their actions and engage with negative emotions instead of suppressing them.
Another way to approach the situation would be to change the way we explain happiness and understand it as a way of life. In classical Greece, happiness was close to the feeling of going to bed knowing you had been honest with yourself and others. Being honest means maintaining a balance between a dose of illusion to achieve something and not losing sight of reality. The diversity of optimistic and pessimistic views enriches the mind as well as the group of friends.