It was the classic story with a twist: Victoria Hogan was always the office bearer, never the bride.
The 35-year-old owner of a pop-up wedding business in Las Vegas, Flora Pop, has been married to more than 3,000 couples for the past seven years before she finally had the opportunity to be in the spotlight.
“It was an interesting dynamic, because I was a marriage officer who was not married myself,” she said. Hogan, a pastor of Universal Life Church, said. “It was a difficult experience for a long time, because I believed that my romantic heart led me to it in the first place.”
Me. Hogan addressed her couples and gave good advice: Be merciful to your partner, she would tell them, first have compassion and love yourself. Then it will radiate into your relationship.
However, her own love life was in shambles, and she felt that her romantic partners were never on the same page as it came to the relationship.
But when the pandemic hit, and me. Hogan starts taking many solo walks, she sees a familiar face crouching over a book in a coffee shop near her home in Las Vegas. It was a friend of a friend of a friend, someone she’s seen drinking regularly in Las Vegas – but not someone she’s ever talked to or if she’s considered can be meaningful in her life.
“She saw me read a book, and probably thought there was more going on,” said Stephen Fetterusso, a 34-year-old hairdresser. “I probably read a nasty fantasy novel, to be honest.”
Regardless of the book’s subject, Ms Hogan was intrigued. She waited two weeks and then commented on his Instagram posts – which she quickly realized – very much in line with her own Instagram posts. They were both obsessed with old Vegas, Elvis and architecture.
After chatting for a few months via social media, they decided to meet each other. Mr. Fetterusso is after me. Hogan’s backyard, where they sat about 20 feet apart, just to be safe.
“We had a very nice evening, but we shouted at each other about her backyard,” said Mr. Fetterusso said.
They met, fully masked, outdoors and took social distance very seriously. Despite social clues and official dates, neither could determine whether the other was interested. Both were very interested.
“We went for a walk, and he will walk across the street,” she said. Hogan said. ‘For someone who has difficulty reading or is interested in me or not, it was extremely difficult about the pandemic. We could not embrace each other, and the masks were an obstacle to reading social clues. ‘
When they started to feel more comfortable around each other, me. Hogan mnr. Fetterusso invited to watch one of their favorite movies, “Viva Las Vegas.” After the movie is over, she turns to him and says, ” Do you know I do not like you? ” And they finally kiss.
Their ‘dates’ continued and they shared a bottle of wine in the park; they walked; they have me. Hogan’s ten-year-old rescue German shepherd, Rhubarb, goes for a walk.
It felt comfortable, but there was a strong connection, Ms. Hogan said. One morning in October, as they were lying in bed, she grabbed her grandparents’ wedding bands and asked Mr. Fetterusso to marry her.
Eventually, Ms. Hogan would plan her own wedding, after helping so many others plan theirs. She set the date for April 5, 2021 and was determined not to be a bride.
“I wanted something simple,” she said. Hogan said. “We jumped in the car, went around the corner, got married and enjoyed a nice dinner together.”
The wedding at A Little White Wedding Chapel was just the two of them, plus me. Hogan’s photographer friend and Michael Conti, a Universal Life Church pastor and an Elvis impersonator. Me. Hogan always preached to her couples that weddings should not put you in debt; they do not have to be an overarching issue.
Now she could put her words into action. She can lead her couples with confidence, now that she is also married.
“My advice is still similar to what it was before, but I can now own it with more conviction,” she said. Hogan said.