On paper, it looked like Emily Capilouto and dr. James Harb did not have much in common when they connected with the dating app Bumble in 2018 and agreed to meet for a first date in Birmingham, Ala., Where both lived.
But they did have many dentists in their family trees.
Me. Capilouto, 33, whose parents both have a degree in dental medicine, plans to rely on the conversation crutch. But Dr. Harb, 32, who was in his dental school at the time in his senior year and has a father who is also a dentist, said he would rather not talk about dentistry. He suggested a gambit of his own: red wine.
She connected the subject with equal agility.
“I have an allergy,” she said. Capilouto said. “It makes my nose bleed. So both of our plans went out the window and we started talking about our other interests instead. ”
And while they were talking, it turned out that she came from a Sephardic Jewish family, while she was Palestinian and Melchizedek Greek Catholic. She is the only child and he is one of five. She graduated from the University of Boston, and he attended the University of Alabama in Tuscaloosa, home of the Crimson Tide. But they did have the graduate school in common: she earned a degree in public health from the University of Alabama in Birmingham, where he then completed a degree in dentistry.
Apart from cosmetic differences, it quickly became clear that they shared the essential interest – each other.
“It was a wonderful first date,” said Dr. Harb said. “The conversation only lasted three or four hours at a time.”
A few dates later, after homemade pizza, the couple shared a first kiss on a soccer-watching Saturday.
“We were just watching the game and I do not know why I remember it,” she said. Capilouto said. She is now the Director of Education and Outreach at the Mike Slive Foundation for Prostate Cancer Research in Birmingham. “It will make us sound a lot like Alabama, but it’s true.”
“As I recall, it was something I wanted to do, but it was difficult to find a good break in the conversation,” said Dr. Harb, an associate of Cullman Cosmetic & Family Dentistry, a private practice in Cullman, said. Ala. ‘For that, you need a moment to land right. We hung out too much. ”
A few months later, Mrs. Capilouto’s family visited Dr. Harb joined in during a Christmas Eve celebration, and they found that his family had made a Near Eastern pastry – bourekas – that her family considered special for their own tradition. The two began to realize that their cultural similarities were perhaps just as important as their differences.
“Since then, we have found that we have many interests that are specific and similar,” she said. Capilouto said. For example, both families have been rooted in the South for three generations, and both are pious.
“They are very religious, and although I am also a person of faith, I naturally believe in another faith,” she said. Capilouto said. “We assumed that there would be more of these ideological differences than there really were.”
In fact, as it turns out, the two eventually felt that their differing beliefs facilitated the cooperation of their families, which was extremely important to both.
“We would like to think that we are one of the happy couples because our holiday that we want to spend with our family does not overlap,” said me. Capilouto said. ‘Our first year of dating took us directly from the Passover cedar meal to the midnight Easter feast. It’s really beautiful. ”
The couple was legally married on May 28 when a good friend of Ms. Capilouto, Ann Watford Todd, a notary, celebrated their marriage certificate in accordance with Alabama law. The event took place in a cafe and home shop, General, in Birmingham.
“She just brought her notary stamp, so I think, technically enough, we have a notarized document that left the coffee shop,” she said. Capilouto said.
The next day, on May 29, the couple held rugby ceremonies in honor of each of their religious traditions. Rev. Dr. Justin Rose held a ceremony in the Greek Catholic Church of Saint George Melkite, and Rabbi Adam Wright served in Temple Emanu-El, both in Birmingham. A total of 13 people attended the events and they concluded the ceremonies with a meal on the outdoor patio of a restaurant, Birmingham, Chez Fonfon.